Feb 27

What works for one…

When I was in my early 20s, I saw a doctor for weight loss. During my treatment, he directly told me I had a pathological and ingrain fear of success. For years I have mulled this over. What is success? What is fear?  What is fear of success? What is a successful fear?  What IS failure? Why can someone be comfortable with it?  What is mediocrity? What is effort and what are results?  The good news is that I have found profound insights through my pondering. The bad news is that i have found some disturbing insights as well.

Not the least of which is that I am willing to use the old good news/paradigm model.

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“So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.”

Here is what I learned:

  • My fear of success was imprinted me as a chilld
  • My fear of failure I learned from trying things and failing, mostly because of my fear of success
  • I consolidated both fears into a grand scheme of avoiding DOING anything
  • I decided somewhere along the way that the only way to do anything is to do it for my own enjoyment
  • It is best for me to try and fail than for me to second guess what I am doing, because that just plays into my fears and paralyses me
  • I struggle with the preception of selfishness more than the activity of selfishness
  • My motives will never be purely altruistic, but my actions usually are
  • Loving friends who insert doubts that lead me to second guess my efforts do more harm to me than people than people who actually hope for my failure
  • I am encouraged when I am reminded that I CAN accomplish something, that I HAVE talents, that I am good enough in myself; that I am doing what is FUN for me; that SUCCESS is in the effort, not the result.
  • I am discouraged when I am reminded that I AGREED to something; I am forced to look at my activities as RESPONSIBILITIES; that people are COUNTING on me; or when I am asked to consider my motives for things

This is a far-from-complete analysis of my own motivations and demotivations, but it gives a starting point for discussion.  Now that I have revealed more about myself than I planned, let’s talk about other people.

You have your own fears and regrets.  You have your own desires and needs. They guide you, limit you, inspire you, and basically keep you going or hold you back.  You probably can name them as clearly as I did, but maybe you can’t. Maybe you have un-examined areas of your psyche you haven’t addressed or tamed. Regardless, as you look at other people today, take the time to appreciate that they also are driven by their own needs, orientations, fears and predispositions.

 

Other people are operating through a web Most folks have heard of Maslow’s hierach of needs, but fewer are aware of McClelland’s Need theory. In a nutshell (another cliche I still use), it works like this:  We have three needs: affiliation (social), success (doing things right), and power(well…power).  Each of us have a preferred need to fulfill as a priority.  I am, for instance, affiliation-oriented.  If you want to move me to action, it will be invoking or expanding my social contacts. If you are power oriented, then your motivation would be to the acquisition and exercise of power on a personal or societal level.  If you are driven by achievement, your goals are dedicated to what you accomplish and the feelings associated with success.

There are an additional dozen or so other systems that could easy define our reasons. One thing I am a believer in is this: asking why is something to be avoided in many cases because it’s retrograde and used often as a manipulative tool. I was once in a relationship where my partner used “why?” to begin questions that could only be answered “because I am an idiot.” I usually ask the teleological question: what for? This gives me answers without setting up negative answers.

Everyone’s individual experiences created references points for both positive and negative experiences. You carry your filters and your lenses through which you read the clues of the world.  Your third grade trip to a museum may set the foundation for how you look at art and culture, and your first day of driving may create the reference for how you look at left turns. This is no less true of those around you.

I encourage (see what I did there?) everyone to spend a little time looking up personal motivators and thinking about other people’s needs.

As those around you struggle, and you want to share encouragement…don’t be afraid to ask how you can help. Your default moves may be the wrong ones. What words or support actions will work for your loved ones? They can usually tell you.  How do you encourage or spur on subordinates? Ask them, they might tell you.  How can you make sure your boss knows you have their back?  Tell them you have their back! Then ask if they need anything specific.

And, as you share and encourage those around you, remember that what works for one….doesn’t necessarily work for another.


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Feb 19

S04E003: Videodrome and Project Cosplay

Seriously Dan Carroll and Mary Lou Who discuss a few topics such as defriending on Facebook and Facebook connecting to World of Warcraft. We  admit to some shallowness and move on.   Jessica Perlove and I introduce a new segment called Intown living. This week we talk about VIDEODROME, the store (not the amazing namesake movie), one of the last bastions of video store gold left in the country and an Atlanta Tradition.  Finally, Candace Weslosky talks about the incestuous nature of Lips Down on Dixie and Project Cosplay, while Emma Loggins of Fanbolt Entertainment talks about why she believed in Project Cosplay enough to make it happen every monthy at Joystick Gamebar.

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We give a special shout out to our first $20.00 a month sponsor: Mark Hoerrner!

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Feb 12

Podcast S04 E002: Remembering Richard Hatch

Richard_HatchWe remember actor Richard Hatch, who passed away this past week. We talk about World of Warcraft Professions and additional content. Dan is EFFUSIVE in his praise for YouTube Creator BlueBear! Dan interviews and encourages Game Maker Chris Miller about his new game Collusion! It’s game of political intrigue and humor! Rita and JC De La Torre about their new film, Seekers of the Lost Worlds.

Co-host Mary Lou Who has opinions, and she something, something nonetheless persisted.

Lots of love for Dragon Con, Gotham, and the CW DC shows.

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Chris Miller and Colusion!

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Jason and Rita: Seekers of the Lost Worlds

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Blue bear!

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Feb 01

Podcast S04 E001: Train Whistles and Comedy Shows

 

We are back after a long delay.  Didja miss us? Didja notice?

Cineprov2017Topics for this week include:

  • Once Upon a Time…”I only watched the first season.”  (I have watched it all)
  • You’re the Worst…”It saved my life? Yep.”
  • Magicians: Reign With Magic
  • Why I was uncomfortable with Meg Ryan: she’s just so Dunwoody
  • An Interview with Larry Johnson of Cineprov!
  • Speaking of the worst…getting through the worst month of my life, BUT…coming out of it ready for the fight!
  • An Interview with Stephenie Goad and Kris Bolz of Nerdlanta
  • Dan’s new venture: The Neighborhood Studio

Cineprov: https://www.cineprov.com/

Cineprov is more than just a cheesy movie with jokes. Cineprov is a night out on the town…a live comedy experience…a great date night…a fantastic way to hang out with friends…and oh yes, a cheesy movie with jokes. Cineprov performs at the Plaza Theater on the first Thursday of each month, beginning March 2, 2017.

In August 2013, Cineprov hosted Joel Hodgson, Creator of Mystery Science Theater 3000 for his one man show and also to riff a movie with the troupe.

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NerdLanta is a Live Talk Show at Joystick Gamebar. Hosted by Kristopher Bolz, and Stephenie Goad. It’s a Nerdy Job but someone’s gotta do it.

Regular contributors include Korey Epps, Kristen Avery, Katie Brittle, and Amanda the Zombie!

 


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Jan 31

Branding for Creatives

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Classes Scheduled!  Feb 11th!  March 11th!

Join now! email seriouslydan@seriouslydan.com for more information. 

 

In Conjunction with Neighborhoodstudioatlanta.com, Dan Carroll is now teaching courses on the practical applications of branding to help aspiring creatives to become working creatives.

 Dan Carroll is the best! He gets results because he knows how to create and share a message. If you need to get the word out, talk to Dan. He’ll help you get it done and he makes it fun while you’re doing it. Also, he’s got a contagious laugh and is a great audience member.
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Learn from Dan Carroll, an expert in message management, to identify what makes you special as an artist, find ways to network and share your message, and use your message to build a career from your creativity. A brand is not a motto or a slogan; it is an encapsulated identity that builds bridges. Artists learn to focus their core identity so that they can better communicate their work. The instructor will guide students to remove clutter and hone a core message that is instantly communicated. Course is 3 hours of Classroom Training and one hour of personal coaching as a follow up.

“Dan Carroll has been a longtime friend of Atlanta media and is well-respected by them for his professionalism and friendly communications style. In this culture of distrust, Dan understands the true craft of building and maintaining solid relationships with both patrons and those who influence them. I am confident Dan can teach anyone how to establish a lasting and appreciated brand.”
Melissa Carter, Radio Personality, B-98.5

Dan Carroll is a management, communications, and promotions expert. He is most easily recognized for his role as the media relations director for many pop culture conventions and an advocate for geek culture.

 

 


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Nov 15

The Neighborhood Studios Offers New Classes For Voice Over!

Seriously, Dan is back! This episode I got to talk to Bob Carter, voice over/voice acting expert, about his amazing new production space/training space called “The Neighborhood.”  There is more specific information below, but give the podcast a listen. You cannot help but fall in love with this man’s voice!  Bob shares a lot of experience and perspective on professional vocal work and talks about way YOU can get involved!

(If you decide to take one of these classes, share with the the PROMO code “Seriously” so that The Neighborhood Studio know to treat you right because you are Dan Fan!) 

 

More information:

Bob Carter

The Neighborhood Studio

Bob@neighborhoodstudioatlanta.com

http://www.neighborhoodstudioatlanta.com/ 

The Neighborhood Studio Prepares Students Interested in Careers in Voice Acting

Introductory “Voice Over Vigilante” Class Scheduled for 11/19

Atlanta, GA 11/14/2016 – The Neighborhood Studio, a school and studio for voice acting and professional communications, has announced a series of new training offerings as an exciting response to the overwhelming global need for voice actors, performers, and speakers. Located in Atlanta, The Neighborhood has been able to assist students preparing for work in voice acting. A boot-camp style for those looking to start in Voice Acting is Scheduled for November, 19 2009

Bob Carter and September Day both have long standing careers in voice over and voice acting work. Together they have traveled around the country teaching voice over workshops. Their passion for voice over and has inspired them to open a production and coaching studio, the Neighborhood.

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Aug 24

The 36 Hour Rule

I want to tell you about the 36 Hour Rule:
I often advise my friends in panic mode to wait 36 hours before reacting negatively. I call it the 36 Hour Rule.
 
As we get ready for the greatest Holiday in Atlanta, I want to point out two interesting news stories: Donald Glover has been chosen to be Lando, and Peter David is talking to Netflix about Young Justice. As an Atlanta resident and fan of Peter David, I wish both were true. As of now…they are not actualities, and in fact they are rumors being shared as truth.
 
One of the most egregious things I have seen in my life time was a newspaper headline the morning after the incident at Chernobyl that over 3000 lives were lost. They were not. It was a tragic mess, but in the end few people died immediately. Clara Barton, founder of the American Red Cross has a very jaded view of all disasters and would routinely warn her team not to believe any stories of gloom or doom until they have seen it.  She had lived through a lifetime or rumor and exaggeration.
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Remember the 36 hour rule as you hear more rumors at the end of August. You know…more geek rumors. Rumors that get your hackles up in arms and your metaphors mixed.
 
So why the 36 rule? Because we all have the potential to react negatively to things we hear, without allowing the truth a chance to sort out.  Give yourself a day and a half because usually that’s enough time to figure out what the truth is (as close as we can as humans). Give yourself a day and half while your emotions settle. If you find that you need to fix things, complain, or fly off the handle…do so when you are sure you are not influenced by the novelty of the situation. Then…knock yourself out.
And this rule is not formed because I look at other people.  I implemented to protect myself from spouting nonsese. I share it to protect my friends.
This is not an official statement of anything but Seriously, Dan…a podcast that will be signing off in October.

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Aug 02

Dan Carroll Announces That Seriously, Dan will Shut Down Late September

 

I like writing headlines where I talk about myself in the third person.

I have decided that Seriously, Dan…a brand that has been with me since 2012…will be retiring in September 2016.

But, I will get through all those names who asked me to say something nice about them and will publish a podcast a week until I am through the list.

Immediately after Dragon Con 2016, I will begin work on my newest project, which is not focused on the geek community.  The project is titled “A Well Time Truth” and is dedicated to sharing positive but realistic messages to those who struggle.   Focusing primarily through a YouTube Channel, the project will include blogging, access to support materials, and other surprises.

Thank you all for all your support.

Special thanks to Mary Lou Who, Mike Faber, Allison Carroll, and all those who shared the mic with me.

 

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Jul 04

The Most Amazing People and Their Stories (Part 3): 20 More!

This is Dan Carroll, Seriously, Dan, coming to you with the next of a 10 part series that will take us through the summer of 2016! Our podcasts this summer will be focused on talking about my favorite things about the amazing friends, family, and colleagues in my life. This all started with a Facebook post that I put on my wall May 14, 2016. It reads like this:

THESE WILL NOT BE HOW WE MET…just what I think is wonderful about you.

ctlu_mugI give you stories about 20 of the best people I know. Next time I will give you 20-25 more…I will continue doing this until I am done. Which I feel will end up being August 2016.

Just one note. I sometimes forget people’s name, mispronounced people’s name, or stammer and forget what I am talking about. If I mispronounce your name or activity…please forgive me. I am doing the best I can. I am not being malicious or careless … just moving along.

Today’s wonderful people!

  • Erika Yvette Figueroa
  • Mike Faber
  • Grace Hawthorne
  • Molly Gypsy Rose
  • Jason De La Torre
  • Jonathan M Chaffin
  • Sammie Luke
  • Cyd Hoskinson
  • Mindy Kidd
  • Ashley Joanne Leckwold
  • Liz Bradley
  • Cynthia Middleton
  • Jean Bowers Graziano
  • Jason Dorough
  • Amanda Bunny Aug
  • Matthew Carlton Mangrum
  • Katie Smith
  • Ashley Benson
  • Margaret Parsons
  • Holly Bryant-Simpson

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Jun 11

The Most Amazing People and Their Stories (Part 2): 22 More!

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This is Dan Carroll, Seriously, Dan, coming to you with the next of a 10 part series that will take us through the summer of 2016! Our podcasts this summer will be focused on talking about my favorite things about the amazing friends, family, and colleagues in my life. This all started with a Facebook post that I put on my wall May 14, 2016. It reads like this:

Hey, Folks… am going to do the podcast about how I know some of ya’ll. So I need as many friends as possible to agree to this by commenting on this post. School chums, Jersey Friend, navy folks. Dragon Con friends and family, co-workers, small convention folks…anyone. I will write a story about each of you that I actually know. If we have never met…i will admit that.

THESE WILL NOT BE HOW WE MET…just what I think is wonderful about you

 

So I give you stories about 22 of the best people I know. Next time I will give you 21 more…I will continue doing this until I am done. Which I feel will end up being August 2016.

Just one note. I sometimes forget people’s name, mispronounced people’s name, or stammer and forget what I am talking about. If I mispronounce your name or activity…please forgive me. I am doing the best I can. I am not being malicious or careless … just moving along.

Today’s wonderful people!

  • Christina Wert
  • Shaun Washington
  • Heather Ulsh
  • Carrie Tupper
  • Shanni Townsend
  • Kiba Silverman
  • Amber Satterfield
  • Jennifer Reeves
  • Jen Pawley
  • Sammie Luke
  • Chris Lloyd
  • Hillary Lipko
  • Evee Hunnel
  • Taylor Hall
  • James Garner
  • Zedith Drane
  • Spencer Cullom
  • Anne Chance
  • Stephen Bare
  • Puvithel Angelynn Rajan
  • Illa Anastasia
  • Bryan A. Espinoza

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